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You are here: BAILII >> Databases >> England and Wales Family Court Decisions (other Judges) >> London Borough of Redbridge v Mother & Ors [2024] EWFC 300 (B) (31 July 2024) URL: http://www.bailii.org/ew/cases/EWFC/OJ/2024/300.html Cite as: [2024] EWFC 300 (B) |
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B e f o r e :
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LONDON BOROUGH OF REDBRIDGE |
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(1) Mother (2) Father (3) THE CHILD (by the Children's Guardian) |
(Respondents) |
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MISS N BALLARD appeared on behalf of the First Respondent
MR D DIAMOND appeared on behalf of the Second Respondent
MISS K SANGHA appeared on behalf of the Third Respondent Child (by the Children's Guardian, Miss Bolton)
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JUDGE SUH:
Background
Chronology
Procedure
Threshold
Welfare
The father's parenting assessment from pre-proceedings records as follows, "I asked", says the assessor, "if VN had some more positive friends, and the father stated that [redacted]
has supported VN a lot, but does not go to school and threatens suicide."
I do not know how objective that is, but that is what was recorded at the time.
"VN has probably not been provided with the ability to learn how to regulate her emotions in the context of an attached relationship and, furthermore, she has been placed in the impossible position of trying to look after and regulate her mother's emotional instability from a very early age."
Conclusion
"This contact arrangement is to give more focussed and boundaried contact and if VN can evidence she can work with the proposal, then it can be reviewed in six weeks."
I did not know what that meant. Does it mean that if VN works well with the foster carers and her friends visit, it might be possible to review and have a sleepover or is something else intended? I think that needs to be clarified.
31 August 2024
Dear VN,
I promised I would write to you and explain what happened at court.
I know that both of your parents love you so very much in their different ways, and they are very different personalities. I am so glad that they have both put you first in saying that you can stay where you are with [redacted] for the moment. No one had to go in the witness box and give evidence. Everyone agreed this was best. I agree that what is best for you at the moment is being with [redacted].
We have written down what needs to happen for you to hopefully spend more time with your Mum and to live with her when she has her new accommodation. Your father, mother and the Guardian agreed this plan. There is also a list of the help that you and your parents will be offered so you can take steps towards the future you want.
There is a Care Order which means that Alice has responsibility for making decisions for you and putting your welfare first. I have asked her to look at whether you can have sleepovers at [redacted's] house and at your time with [redacted]. Her job is to make sure that you are safe and to help you make wise choices, which is why she has to check out who you spend time with.
Your Mum agreed that Alice would arrange for her to have help with her mental health and drugs and alcohol and managing her money. She agreed to do a course about how to be the best parent she can be. I really hope that she will accept all the help that she can so that she can be in the best place she can be for you. I know you are so proud of her for the changes she has made, but she still has work to do in order to cope with all of life's stresses in a healthy way.
I know you don't want to see your Dad at the moment. You only ever get one Dad in life, and so I hope you can rebuild your relationship with him when this has finished. He does want the best for you and is so proud of you. He has agreed to do some more work to try to understand how things look to you and how he can be the best Dad he can be to you.
I know you are such a wonderful, intelligent and thoughtful young person with so much potential. Things have been very difficult for you, I know. I have asked the social workers to make sure you get the help from CAHMS, a [redacted] (if you want it), a mentor at school and other things that might help you get to a better place with your mental health like FUSION. I would also want you to have advice on safe and healthy relationships. I have asked the social workers to help get you to school in your GCSE year because you have the potential to do so well in that.
I would also want you to be able to make wise and safe decisions for yourself and to be able to figure out which people really have your best interests at heart and who is safe to hang around when you are out and about. I hope that you will accept some help with this because things have been so chaotic for you. Alice needs you to work with her so that you can have sleepovers with friends. She needs you to keep your side of the bargain so you are safe when you are given freedom to do something. No one wants to have to restrict your freedom and put you in residential care and I know that you don't want this either. But you do have choices to make, which only you can do, that will shape your future. I hope that the support you are given will empower you to make positive and healthy choices which put your own well being first.
You have a very bright future, VN, but you also have choices that only you can make from here. I sincerely hope that the help you will get will empower you to become more of the thoughtful, insightful and articulate young person that I have seen when I have met you and the best version of yourself that you can be.
I wish you all the very best in the future.
With all best wishes
Judge Suh
I have signed it and dated it. Please can that be given via the guardian, if I can hand it to [the clerk] in hard copy and I will email it out to the advocates so they have it for their records, but I would ask that nobody gives that to VN until Miss Bolton has delivered it personally.